Well, we all are familiar with criticism. In fact, we all have faced it in our life at some point of time. That means we know how it feels when someone criticize us. We feel very bad, sometimes we even cry. But criticism is far more worse if it is done constantly. And I am talking about Destructive Criticism here. Though there is also a Constructive Criticism, I’ll talk about it later in some other post.
SO, back to the point. Some people have this inherent habit of criticism. They just criticize no matter what other feels. Some people often have this misunderstanding that criticizing someone means, ”I have more power and I know better, so I should practice this power to make other person feel least of him”.
Criticism exist in every area of life. From school life to a corporate life. Now the question is How Criticism affects us?
As per a comprehensive study on Criticism, most psychologists agree that criticism does not lead people to change behavior. Instead it creates anger and defensiveness on the part of the person criticized. Communication between the parties is shackled, and positive relationships impeded. In short, Criticism creates havoc in relationships of concerned parties. It damages our ability to think logically. Because whenever we do get criticized, first thing come in our mind is anger and hatred for that person even if it’s constructive criticism. Our brain is designed to take negative things very seriously, that may be good in some cases, but not in case of criticism.
Criticism is just a bad way of making a request. So why not just make the request politely? Why destroy someone’s peace of mind? Often, when we criticize someone, it is because they are not doing something we would like them to do or they are doing something we would like them to stop doing. Rather than using an attack mode of communication like criticism, it would be much healthier and much more effective to simply make your request. If you make a peaceful request, it is much less likely to be received negatively by your partner, and will foster a solution that much quicker.